Working Moms. You Got The Job Now What?! #Shero

If you’ve poked around on my site or social media, I talk about the journey in starting my career. It begins with me trying to balance my professional acumen ignorance and being a new Mom. The stress was real. I knew I wanted to provide a lifestyle that existed among the exempt employees status. So what the heck did I need to do to get there?! I grabbed a bunch of mentors along the way and met with men and women that gave infinite amounts of wisdom. No one told me I would be half-crazy and almost give up every other day while growing my career.  I am innately ambitious and always take on more than I can chew. But for some reason, I thought being a “Working Mommy” would come just as easy. Um, wrong! Everything changed. I met Denene Millner recently and she had no idea of my obsession over her blog. It got me through a lot of rough patches. Here is a piece she wrote on balancing motherhood and work—and the ridicule that people sometimes try to place on you. Good stuff, right?

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Society changes and so have the roles of Mothers in the workplace. The Women’s Bureau Department of Labor reports, “Women, especially mothers with children under age 18, are much more likely to participate in the labor force than in the past.” Which makes sense. However, stats do not come with stories. Entering the workforce as a Mother, tested my ambition and sanity. This became my story. I had to learn work life balance quickly but moreover I had to create boundaries. After a few wack ass experiences, I met with my mentor and learned the importance of an employment strategy. I had to carve out components to look at when I started looking for a new position.

Women, including 25.1 million working mothers with children under age 18, are a major force in our economy. Over the years, many mothers have joined the labor force, and their role as economic providers for their families has increased. In 2015, 69.9 percent of mothers with children under age 18 were in the labor force, representing over
a third (34.2 percent) of working women.
Moreover, mother-only families made up nearly a quarter of families with children.ii While their role in the paid labor force has changed, mothers continue to carry a disproportionate share of the unpaid household and caregiving responsibilities. At the same time, they still face a lack of adequate workplace supports and encounter barriers that prevent them from achieving economic security for themselves and their families.
— https://www.dol.gov/wb/resources/WB_WorkingMothers_508_FinalJune13.pdf

Not only finding a position, but once you land it how to cope. I suffered from several anxiety attacks and other things manifesting on my body from stress. It ain’t worth it, sis. However, being the realistic person I am and carrying self-responsibility as a crown I knew I had to have income. Self-employment was tossed around but I had different goals in mind. I knew I could give myself and my family the life we deserved through gainful employment. I also knew it would take some work. I didn’t know both looking for a job and staying employed could almost cost me my sanity. Ha! Here are some Working Mom Survival Tips from Denene Millner’s MyBrownBaby Blog… I also wrote out a few Before & After things to be kind to yourself through the process.

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Before-Working Moms as Jobseeker:

  • Look for company cultures that embrace family life and balance.
  • Be realistic about your commute when looking at new opportunities.
  • What schedule works for your life as a Mother?
  • Are the benefits family friendly?
  • Mark out days and times for interviews so you aren’t scrambling at the last minute.

After-Working Moms as Employee:

  • Be kind to yourself. Work on not feeling guilty being away from baby <3
  • Make sure to take your lunch break. Recharge. This may be your only alone time.
  • See if you can work out during lunch- boost your endorphins!
  • Keep your emotions in check; but communicate with your direct supervisor if you have any needs regarding your family. Be professional but transparent.
  • Know your Employer’s policy on FMLA or any type of leave and PTO.

Stay encouraged. Your kids will be grateful for the life and stability you help to provide. Keep going, sis!

 

Xo- Jas